When They Start Finding Their Own Way
Apparently, it isn’t cool to work for your mum.
So, Ethan has flown the coop. He’s now a fully fledged member of the McDonald’s workforce.
I’m so proud of him. It’s a big step. A proper “out into the world” moment.
But if I’m honest, there’s a tiny pinch in my heart too.
Because for a while, he was part of my world. Our studio world. Full of creativity, cuddles, and chaos.
And now… he’s off discovering his own path.
Becoming his own person.
And that’s exactly how it should be.
The Magic of Little Imaginations
A few days later, I had one of those moments that made me smile.
My gorgeous niece is about to turn five. She’s always loved the trampoline at our house. Big laughs. Messy hair. Endless bouncing.
The other day, mid-bounce, she told me she was getting one for her birthday. Now that they’ve moved somewhere with a garden, of course.
So I thought, perfect present idea.
I checked with her mum… who knew absolutely nothing about this plan.
Not a clue.
Just a lovely little reminder of how children think. So full of ideas. So full of possibility.
They Are Always Becoming
It got me thinking.
Our children are constantly becoming.
They try on ideas, dreams, and identities like dressing up clothes.
One day they’re helping in your business.
The next, they’re out in the world building something of their own.
One day they’re bouncing on your trampoline.
The next, they’re imagining a whole new life in their heads.
And our role?
It’s not to write their story.
It’s to give them the space to explore it.
Why Space Matters
Giving children space can feel hard.
It can feel like stepping back. Like letting go, just a little.
Sometimes it even feels like they don’t need us in the same way anymore.
But that space is where the magic happens.
It’s where confidence grows.
Where they discover what they enjoy.
Where they start to understand who they are.
Simple Ways to Give Them Room to Grow
Here are a few gentle ways to support them:
Let them lead the play
Follow their ideas. Whether it’s trampolines, dens, or made-up games. Let their imagination take charge.
Listen without rushing in
When they share their big plans, pause before correcting. They don’t always need facts. They need to feel heard.
Celebrate trying, not perfect
It’s not about getting everything right. It’s about having a go and learning along the way.
Offer small choices
Let them choose their clothes, snacks, or activities. These little decisions build confidence over time.
Accept their changing interests
They may love something today and forget it tomorrow. That’s not a problem. It’s part of growing.
Show them it’s okay to be brave
Let them see you try new things too. You don’t have to be perfect. Just willing.
Be present, not controlling
Sometimes the best thing we can do is simply be there. Calm, supportive, and nearby.
Holding On While Letting Go
Watching Ethan step into his own world has reminded me of something important.
We don’t raise children to keep them close forever.
We raise them to trust themselves.
To follow their own path.
Even when that path looks different to the one we imagined.
And those little trampoline dreams?
They matter too.
They’re the start of independence. Of imagination. Of becoming.
A Gentle Reminder
So here’s your reminder today.
Give them space.
Cheer them on.
Hold them close… while letting them grow.
Even when it tugs at your heart a little…
Especially then.
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